What if your divorce wasn’t just an ending—but your greatest opportunity yet to actively create a life you’re excited to live? Let’s be clear: getting intentional about your goals isn’t just nice—it’s essential. Divorce is tough, sure. But it’s also your moment to define exactly what your future looks like. The clearer your vision, the simpler your decisions. Every choice—finances, parenting, living arrangements—becomes simpler, more strategic, and less stressful.
At Freed Marcroft, we don’t just guide you through divorce—we help you clearly define, prioritize, and actively pursue your vision for a brighter future.
Keeping your focus fixed on your future goals is also your best defense against emotional overwhelm or getting sucked into drama. When big choices need to be made, your priorities for the for the life you’re building become your anchor and empower you to keep moving forward confidently.
Think of your goals as your North Star—they guide you through uncertainty and give you something concrete to move toward. So, don’t just “get through” your divorce. Use it. Transform it into your chance to claim the future you truly want.
How to Discover Your Goals
To start, ask yourself these questions:
- What does a fulfilling life look like for me five years from now? Where am I? Who am I with? How do I feel?
- What are my top priorities regarding finances, family, career, and lifestyle?
- What values do I want to honor most moving forward?
Write your answers down—this clarity can profoundly shift your mindset.
At Freed Marcroft, we help you articulate the future you genuinely want right from the start at the Goals & Planning Conference. Throughout our work together, your experienced team doesn’t just listen—we ask the right questions and provide strategic guidance that helps you uncover and stay connected to the priorities that matter most.
Read: Navigating Divorce: Discovering Your Goals for a Positive Future
Practical Examples of Goal-Focused Decisions
- Finances: If your goal is financial independence, prioritizing a fair division of assets that supports long-term stability will guide your negotiations.
- Parenting Plans: If a strong co-parenting relationship and meaningful time with your children is important, prioritize creating collaborative arrangements that prioritize the children’s needs and honor both parents’ roles.
- Housing: If your ideal future involves a fresh start, decisions around whether to keep the marital home become easier and less emotional.
Read: When Reality Doesn’t Match Up With Your Vision
Prioritizing Between Your Goals
Now it’s time to get even clearer about your vision by prioritizing your goals. As you move forward, you’ll face important decisions about how your case resolves. To navigate those decisions effectively—and confidently—you’ll need to know exactly which goals are most critical to building your happiest future. The earlier you determine what’s most impactful, the more strategic, proactive, and empowered you’ll be when it’s time to act.
Being intentional about your priorities means you’ll focus your energy, resources, and decision-making on what truly matters most to you. That, in turn, will reduce your overwhelm and stress. When the time comes to make the most important decisions in your divorce, knowing your priorities among your goals will empower you to make strategic, thoughtful choices rather than reactive ones
Read: Revisiting and Prioritizing Your Goals: Time, Money, & Outcomes
Practical Examples of Prioritized Goals
Here are some examples to help you actively prioritize your goals:
- Time: If resolving your divorce quickly is your priority, consider focusing on efficiently reaching a final resolution rather than getting caught up in prolonged negotiations over relatively minor issues.
- Privacy: If keeping your family matters private is a top priority, a confidential settlement (whether reached via negotiation or ADR tools like mediation and collaborative divorce) could be more appealing than a public hearing in a courtroom.
- Legal Fees: If managing costs is a high priority, you might prioritize reaching agreements swiftly rather than pursuing extended litigation. (Remember to always make sure you are weighing your legal fee investment in the context of all of the financials of a divorce.)
- Decision-Making Control: If maintaining control over decisions is paramount, you might prioritize reaching a resolution through direct negotiation, making sure you retain influence over outcomes rather than leaving decisions solely to a judge.
- Outcomes Matter: When the settlement offer doesn’t get you close enough to your goal—and your lawyer advises that you’ll likely do substantially better in court—you may choose to let a judge decide.
- Co-Parenting Harmony: If your priority is fostering a positive future co-parenting relationship, you might agree to a slightly different parenting schedule to avoid increasing acrimony and promote collaboration.
Read: Resolving Your Divorce: The Power of Compromise and How to Find the Right Balance
Strategies for Staying Focused on Your Goals During Divorce
- Regularly revisit your goals and priorities: Schedule regular check-ins with yourself to review your prioritized goals to make sure they are still what’s most important, and to keep yourself connected to the future you’re building.
- Create visual reminders: Vision boards, sticky notes, or notes on your phone help keep your desired future top of mind.
- Use your team: Revisit your goals regularly with your Freed Marcroft legal team. We don’t just keep you informed—we keep you anchored. Our approach supports you in making decisions that align with your vision, guiding you steadily toward your happiest future.
Stay focused. Stay intentional. Your future self will thank you.
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